A More Serious Post..

Okay, so this post is going to be kind of more serious than my usual ones. Not TOO serious, but it’s about something I find interesting and something that should be important in everyone’s lives..

Here’s why this topic is on my mind today..

I took a class yesterday with about 30 other nurses that work for the same hospital I do. During one of the presentations, the instructor went around asking everyone where they were born and what was their ethnicity. I was completely startled to hear the results!

Out of the approximately 30 nurses..

  • Not a single one was born in the city in which we work.
  • Only a handful were born in the state we work in.
  • And only about half were actually born in the United States.
  • The places people were born in included – The Philippines, Panama, Asia, Germany and Africa.

I can’t even almost remember all the ethnicities (according to spell check, this isn’t a word but I don’t know what else to use), but it was absolutely amazing to realize I work for a company that VERY obviously encourages diversity.

And not only that.. but nursing in general is a very diverse career. There’s nurses fresh out of college that are 22 years old.. and then it ranges all the way up to nurses in their 60’s who are ready to retire. Three generations of people working together! We’re changing the world people! 😉

I know this isn’t my usual topic of discussion but I thought it was interesting and felt like sharing it with you all.

Do you have diversity where you work?

Does Marriage Change Anything?

How has marriage changed your relationship? I was kind of surprised at how many times I was asked this question after our wedding. I hadn’t actually thought about it before. Was I expecting anything to change? Was Joel? Was something supposed to change? I know every relationship and every marriage is different. But to be honest.. YES, our relationship has changed.

But for the better.

I honestly wasn’t expecting anything to be different. And I guess the actual dynamics of our relationship haven’t changed, but truthfully, the love I feel for him now – it’s completely different than anything I felt for him before. Sometimes I’m just stunned to think that someone could love me enough to vow to spend forever with me. I love knowing that I have this person in my life that promised me and promised our family and friends that he would be there through thick and thin.

Yes, yes, I know. People get divorced. And both of us have experienced our fair share of failed and dysfunctional relationships in our families and in our own lives. But maybe that’s a GOOD thing for us. We’ve seen what we don’t want to do. We’ve seen what doesn’t work. We’ve seen what causes a relationship to fall apart. We’ve even had our own relationship fall apart before. But we were together for almost 6 years before getting married. We made sure we were ready to take that big step. We take our marriage seriously and I think we both do a pretty good job at making it successful so far. 🙂

Joel and I have actually had this conversation before. He mentioned this story one time and it still makes me think. He said the one day at work (before we got married) he was talking with his male coworkers and they were all saying how their wives forbid them from doing certain things – going to bars with their friends, riding a motorcycle, playing video games, etc, etc. They all talked about their “ball and chain” and they were warning Joel to be prepared for his life to change dramatically after marriage. And then we got married. And nothing changed. I never told him he couldn’t do those things before, so why would I start doing that now?

Now I’m definitely not an expert on marriage – we’ve only been married for less than a year and half! But I like to think I’m doing a pretty good job so far. So here’s my tips for you, dear readers.

1. Learn to trust – A relationship will not work if there’s no trust. It just won’t.

2. Don’t try to change him (too much) – Some things you can change, and some you just can’t. Joel will always play video games. It’s who he is. But putting glasses in the dishwasher instead of on the counter? I’m working on it.

3. Be affectionate and passionate – Hug him. Kiss him. Tell him you love him. Tell him how lucky you are to have him. Thank him. Men like to be praised just as much as women do!

4. Flirt with him – Yes, I know you’re already married. But flirt with him.

5. Find common interests – Joel and I don’t have much in common, but we both love a super scary horror movie/show. Ghosts or zombies? Yes please!

6. Just have fun – I don’t believe that marriage should be work. I think laughing and being goofy with each other is one of the easiest ways to have a successful relationship. Laughter fixes almost anything, seriously.

Now don’t judge – I truthfully didn’t spend a ton of time on this. I just came up with the first few things that came to my mind. Marriage is a work in progress. Every relationship is different. Things that work for one couple don’t always work for another couple. But just have fun and go from there.

What’s the best relationship advice you ever received?

Just Be Professional

The list could go on, but these are three very truthful points. It happens and it’s real life. We just need to find a way to deal with it.

Nursing and Respiratory Care

As a nursing professional we need to remember some truths that can help us be sane and more productive in our work. The truth may somehow be painful and hard to swallow but a part of the reality of a nursing professional is to be strong enough to admit that the nursing profession has some difficult aspects that you have to bear with. Being positive is a good thing to do but we also need to keep in mind that there are really some negative aspects that we need to learn to cope with.

There Will Be Clashes With Doctors and Colleagues

No matter how much we want to be nice to everyone, it does not simply cut it. There will be times that discussion will be heated and some arguments will erupt between you and a doctor or colleague. The best thing to do is to make sure that…

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Marriage and Old People

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Reblogged Inspiration

Found this on a blog that I thoroughly enjoy reading. I loved the quote and loved the picture so much that I felt like I needed to reblog and share it! Enjoy 🙂

Pearls and Paris

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Words of Wisdom

Just thought I’d share some words of wisdom with everyone 🙂

 

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I want this in my house!

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Always be yourself!

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Never, ever settle.

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Love this.

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Hmm, interesting..

((None of the above pictures are mine. I found them all on Pinterest. Click on each image for original source.))

30 Day “What If” Challenge – Day 3

Day 3 :  What if the whole world were listening, what would you say?

I’m beginning to realize this 30 Day Challenge is going to be much harder than I thought! I’m going to stick with my initial idea of saying the first thing that pops into my head and trusting my instincts. So what would I tell the whole world?

I would say.. STOP BEING SO MEAN.

Stop hating people for things that are irrelevant. Stop judging people based on their looks or income or race or religion or sexual orientation or anything else for that matter. Stop judging people because they’re different than you. Stop judging people because they look differently or talk differently or believe differently. Just stop being mean!
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(And yes, this is something I’m working on also.))

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From Pinterest.

I would also say.. SUPPORT GAY RIGHTS.

I’m not going to go on a huge rant about this. I’m just going to say one thing – everyone deserves to love whoever they want to love. And if two people are in love, they deserve to get married.
The end.

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From Pinterest.

What would you say if the whole world were listening?

30 Day “What If” Challenge – Day 2

Day 2 :  What if you had only 24 hours to live, what would you do?

I would most definitely spend the entire day with my husband and family. Maybe we could fly to the beach and have a picnic. Or go to an amusement park – but only if it’d only be open for us so we wouldn’t have to waste time waiting in lines. I wouldn’t want to travel too far.. because that would be wasting time. So basically I would want to spend the whole day with family and then spend the whole evening relaxing with my dogs – because they’re family too! Nothing too crazy or exciting, but I think just enjoying the time you have is what’s important.

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— Shel Silverstein.